this question was brought up in the twins group i belong to, and it gave me pause.
a guest in the group questioned what to do about a party invitation that invited one twin and not the other. apparently her child was having a party, and one twin was invited, but not the other, and their feelings were hurt. mom wasn't aware of the kids who were invited as the child invited who she wanted.
a couple people suggested inviting the other twin. i, ever the devil's advocate, said that at the boy's school, party invitations, as an "unwritten" rule, are "invite the whole class", "boys only" or "girls only".
someone responded, "yeah, do that, but still invite the other twin".
so i answered back, sure, do that, but if the party is "boys only" and the twin is a girl, she might be out of place; likewise, if the pixie is invited to a spa party, i certainly don't expect monkey ears to be invited to that.
some mentioned that many parents send their siblings to the parties as it's expected.
i have so many problems with kids parties.
first off is who to invite. i'm totally for "whole class", "all boys" or all girls".
last year i planned a party for the boy. we invited his preschool class, which was 17 kids (5 more than i had planned!) i didn't know the parents of the new kids, and the boy wasn't really close to the new kids either, but we still invited them anyway since it was the thing to do. no hurt feelings, and if kids didn't want to come they didn't have to.
secondly, i think it's presumptuous when parents think that just becos one kid is invited, all the siblings are as well. while planning the boy's party, i made enough goody bags for the kids invited (and i had to rejigger them becos i hadn't anticipated more kids in the class), and ordered enough pizza and made enough cake for each child to have a slice or two, plus a slice for the parents who brought them. if i invited 17 kids, plus parents, and if each kid brought at least one sib, that's over 50 people. and what if the goody bags ran out? there's going to be some disappointed little kid there. fortunately, only 2 parents asked if sibs could come along, and both were babies.
lastly, i can't say strongly enough, RSVP!! last year, all but a couple kids RSVP'd to the boy's party. i really counted on a head count so i could plan the pizza and cake accordingly, and make sure i had enough goody bags. fortunately the ones who couldn't come didn't, and those who didn't RSVP didn't come either. but it's still good manners to say whether or not you can attend a party. for someone counting pennies (as we were), it helps when planning for supplies and food.
okay, i'm off my party soap box now.
a guest in the group questioned what to do about a party invitation that invited one twin and not the other. apparently her child was having a party, and one twin was invited, but not the other, and their feelings were hurt. mom wasn't aware of the kids who were invited as the child invited who she wanted.
a couple people suggested inviting the other twin. i, ever the devil's advocate, said that at the boy's school, party invitations, as an "unwritten" rule, are "invite the whole class", "boys only" or "girls only".
someone responded, "yeah, do that, but still invite the other twin".
so i answered back, sure, do that, but if the party is "boys only" and the twin is a girl, she might be out of place; likewise, if the pixie is invited to a spa party, i certainly don't expect monkey ears to be invited to that.
some mentioned that many parents send their siblings to the parties as it's expected.
i have so many problems with kids parties.
first off is who to invite. i'm totally for "whole class", "all boys" or all girls".
last year i planned a party for the boy. we invited his preschool class, which was 17 kids (5 more than i had planned!) i didn't know the parents of the new kids, and the boy wasn't really close to the new kids either, but we still invited them anyway since it was the thing to do. no hurt feelings, and if kids didn't want to come they didn't have to.
secondly, i think it's presumptuous when parents think that just becos one kid is invited, all the siblings are as well. while planning the boy's party, i made enough goody bags for the kids invited (and i had to rejigger them becos i hadn't anticipated more kids in the class), and ordered enough pizza and made enough cake for each child to have a slice or two, plus a slice for the parents who brought them. if i invited 17 kids, plus parents, and if each kid brought at least one sib, that's over 50 people. and what if the goody bags ran out? there's going to be some disappointed little kid there. fortunately, only 2 parents asked if sibs could come along, and both were babies.
lastly, i can't say strongly enough, RSVP!! last year, all but a couple kids RSVP'd to the boy's party. i really counted on a head count so i could plan the pizza and cake accordingly, and make sure i had enough goody bags. fortunately the ones who couldn't come didn't, and those who didn't RSVP didn't come either. but it's still good manners to say whether or not you can attend a party. for someone counting pennies (as we were), it helps when planning for supplies and food.
okay, i'm off my party soap box now.
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