there's a thread in one of the pregnancy groups on ravelry where someone expressed concern about their doctor not being at their child's birth. apparently they had established rapport with the doctor, but he/she was called out of state for a family emergency. the writer asked if anyone else had an experience like this and how things turned out.
i responded that i was going through a similar experience. my doctor was on vacation for 3 weeks and i was followed by another doctor in the practice. he was very nice, but had a very different bedside manner than my regular doc. he wasn't familiar with my case, and often i had to explain a couple times my pregnancy circumstances and potential game plans with my doc. last week, when i had my preterm labor scare, i was delighted to know that the doctor on call was the same doctor who had delivered the boy. fortunately i didn't need her services.
yesterday i met with my surrogate doc, and he inquired about my c-section game plan. i told him i was hoping my regular doc could do the procedure, but at this point if he couldn't i didn't mind if another doctor in the practice delivered the babies, since the practice followed my pregnancy from the beginning and i felt they should have the glory of delivering twins (which is apparently a rarity in an ob/gyn's career.)
back to the ravelry thread. someone else responded to my post that it didn't matter what doctor delivered the babies, i was the one doing the work. uh, not exactly.
my regular doc was the one who told us we were having twins. he has followed my pregnancy from day one. he was there for me last year when i lost ani. he talked me down from ledges when i had questions about the babies, my health, my concerns. when i found out he was going on vacation (which he certainly deserves) i prayed that the babies would stay in until he was back at the office becos he was most familiar with my case. he's the one who told me i was having a c-section. last time i checked, i can't cut my abdomen open and deliver these babies by myself. yes, there's a chance where i could deliver the babies VBAC but with my current health issues it would be ill advised. I COULD DIE DELIVERING THESE BABIES. don't think that hasn't crossed my mind throughout this journey.
so yes, i do have a right to feel anxious about not having my doctor delivering my twins. i do have a right to request my doctor deliver the babies (barring an emergency on his part, then i would certainly welcome another doc from the practice to deliver them). this pregnancy has been long and eventful, and every time i have to repeat my history to someone new, i get exhausted.
so please respect my birth plan wishes. i would never impose my opinion on someone else's plan. please don't impose on mine.
my belly check went well. doc was pleased with the ultrasound results. apparently the babies scored 8 out of 8 for something which is really good. i don't know what that means but i'll take it as good news. i have to increase my bp meds by one pill (so i take it morning, noon and night). hopefully that helps with the swelling and my increasing hbp. cervix is still long and tight. i'm experiencing some clear discharge, sometimes with mauve smears in it, but i compare it to having a runny nose with a blood smear in the mucus; nothing to worry about. cramps are few and far between. i hurt. my belly is stretched to kingdom come. but the babies are active, i'm pooping, and my appetite is improving. life at 35 weeks is good. hopefully i can make it to 36 weeks. next week feels like a good time for 2 birthdays to me.
i responded that i was going through a similar experience. my doctor was on vacation for 3 weeks and i was followed by another doctor in the practice. he was very nice, but had a very different bedside manner than my regular doc. he wasn't familiar with my case, and often i had to explain a couple times my pregnancy circumstances and potential game plans with my doc. last week, when i had my preterm labor scare, i was delighted to know that the doctor on call was the same doctor who had delivered the boy. fortunately i didn't need her services.
yesterday i met with my surrogate doc, and he inquired about my c-section game plan. i told him i was hoping my regular doc could do the procedure, but at this point if he couldn't i didn't mind if another doctor in the practice delivered the babies, since the practice followed my pregnancy from the beginning and i felt they should have the glory of delivering twins (which is apparently a rarity in an ob/gyn's career.)
back to the ravelry thread. someone else responded to my post that it didn't matter what doctor delivered the babies, i was the one doing the work. uh, not exactly.
my regular doc was the one who told us we were having twins. he has followed my pregnancy from day one. he was there for me last year when i lost ani. he talked me down from ledges when i had questions about the babies, my health, my concerns. when i found out he was going on vacation (which he certainly deserves) i prayed that the babies would stay in until he was back at the office becos he was most familiar with my case. he's the one who told me i was having a c-section. last time i checked, i can't cut my abdomen open and deliver these babies by myself. yes, there's a chance where i could deliver the babies VBAC but with my current health issues it would be ill advised. I COULD DIE DELIVERING THESE BABIES. don't think that hasn't crossed my mind throughout this journey.
so yes, i do have a right to feel anxious about not having my doctor delivering my twins. i do have a right to request my doctor deliver the babies (barring an emergency on his part, then i would certainly welcome another doc from the practice to deliver them). this pregnancy has been long and eventful, and every time i have to repeat my history to someone new, i get exhausted.
so please respect my birth plan wishes. i would never impose my opinion on someone else's plan. please don't impose on mine.
my belly check went well. doc was pleased with the ultrasound results. apparently the babies scored 8 out of 8 for something which is really good. i don't know what that means but i'll take it as good news. i have to increase my bp meds by one pill (so i take it morning, noon and night). hopefully that helps with the swelling and my increasing hbp. cervix is still long and tight. i'm experiencing some clear discharge, sometimes with mauve smears in it, but i compare it to having a runny nose with a blood smear in the mucus; nothing to worry about. cramps are few and far between. i hurt. my belly is stretched to kingdom come. but the babies are active, i'm pooping, and my appetite is improving. life at 35 weeks is good. hopefully i can make it to 36 weeks. next week feels like a good time for 2 birthdays to me.
My OB is part of a group. He wasn't on call the night my oldest son was born, but I was okay with it. His partner delivered him and I really liked his partner. But with my second son, I expected him to be there. He'd been through so much with us -- the miscarriage, trying to conceive again, the stress of my spotting and threatened miscarriage...I think he scheduled me for an induction, in part because he knew I needed him there. It was unspoken. He said it was because of the due date, but we had more wiggle room than he was allowing for.
ReplyDeleteIn any event, the baby had different ideas. He came three days before the induction was scheduled. I was so freaked out that a doctor outside of the practice delivered. It was someone I'd never seen before or since. Ugh. My OB came into my room three hours after my delivery and held the baby and talked to me for a while. I was glad for that.
In the grand scheme of things it didn't matter anyway. I was sent to Geisinger becos of their NICU and childrens hospital and the docs who delivered the twins were the nicest people I'd ever met. All that mattered was getting the best treatment for them and they wouldn't have gotten that at my other hospital. I still feel bad that my doc hasn't seen them yet but he will eventually.
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